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Manic_Skafe, I know someone will eventually hurt. Any sort of hurt on people makes me also feel painful, and I feel guilty. Sorry, I didn't say about trying to work out issues in this thread, but we have. We haven't had much agreement and some of his beliefs even seem hypocritical to me (too personal to say). We would talk about it and then become "agree to disagree", which is a bit strange for relationship. If he was just a stranger or good friend, then "agree to disagree" can be more comfortable.
I am usually a passive person, so I let people lead the conversation. I also prefer to listen to people instead of talking. My boyfriend actually made me more interested in cars, and I can talk a bit to him about that. I also don't mind listening to him. But there is not much variety. Sometimes, I try to talk about things I am more passionate about like volunteer work, but he is not interested. We have also tried compromising in activities so we would go hiking in the morning and then shopping in the afternoon. But those activities seem like done alone. He does not like to find small creatures or look at funny plants on hikes, I do not like looking at clothes but I try to take interest in electronics. Also, I already said I cannot play sports with him because of physical injury.
Thinking deeper, it is probably 2 months ago when I started falling out of love with him. He was away in a foreign country. I was depressed because of other family issues and usually I do not want to talk when depressed. So I did not talk much to either my boyfriend or roommate. But the issues inside my family made me think longer about the future, and I realise how both my boyfriend and I are acting when in different places is not much different from being single. We are both not flirty people and I personally don't mind to be single. It seems we talk more like friends but then also have sex when we meet. Is that not like friends with benefits? My boyfriend is a valuable person to me regardless of what relationship or friendship, but it seems a bit strange when we have so many differences to be a couple.
Infinite_Loser, it really isn't "otherwise good" except that we both tried very hard to compromise. As I said previously, many things become "agree to disagree" because we both prefer to talk civilly. We rarely shout and never physical violence. My boyfriend has stable moral values which are good, but there can be some things that are different. Also, my roommate did not try to court me until a week ago. Before that, we just liked to talk about different topics like normal friends.
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