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Old 07-28-2007, 08:39 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Planning a comeback.....

OK, so here's the situation.....

Over the past couple years, the wife and I have had a fairly large drop in sex due largely to her back pain troubles, and in intimacy as I've become somewhat withdrawn and distracted. Currently, she is laid up after having 5 discs fused, and won't be able to do much for a few more months. Also adding to the intimacy issue is the major stress we've both been under after the move, lack of money, etc. On my end, I can imagine that I've been a complete ass at times. I'm also sure that I haven't been supplying a lot of what she needs, and with her laid up, and me working as much as I am, that has been even more so. And on top of it, I make a lousy nurse, so that doesn't help either.

Anyhow, she's been home from the hospital for about 2 weeks now, and things seem to have started to settle down. She's definitely more alert, and we're having full blown conversations at times when the meds are not fully in effect. I'm thinking that this is a perfect time to be able to repair and reconnect our life together.

What I need from you TFPr's, especially the ladies, is that if I wanted to plan a comeback, what do you suggest I do? I just need some different points of view to help me get the intimacy of this relationship back on track so that when she is ready, we can truly take up where it left off. I don't care how large or small the idea is, I just want an arsenal of different things to let her know that I care enough about her and our relationship to breath some life back into it as she's healing up.

And just so you know, I'm already aware that I need to pay more attention to her and her condition and try to be a better caregiver, so I'm ready to take care of the obvious. I'm also well aware of the power of just listening.

TIA, and wish us luck.
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