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I have had a little experience with this kind of abuse, and I feel that it is about power. When someone is not in control in other parts of their life and their partner is also requiring attention that they feel unable to give, they use violence and emotional abuse as a way of making the other person feel as bad as they do, and also to have control over that one aspect in their life.
I think it's wrong, inexcusable, and I also think that people who behave this way don't ever stop. It may be a pretty rough outlook on this but I feel quite strongly that once you abuse the person you love in this way, you will keep on doing it.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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