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Jealousy does has a lot to do with trust as is mentioned in previous posts. However, that's not the only reason so let me put another thought out there.
I used to be an insanely jealous person. I would snoop and accuse left and right. Then I dated a person that was more jealous and controlling than me. That cured me of it, sort of.
What I found out about me was that it wasn't so much the trust issue as a self-esteem issue. I had very low self-esteem which came with depression and suicidal tendencies. I couldn't understand why a person would stay with me and that caused me to be jealous. I found that age and working on self-esteem pretty much squelched my jealous tendencies.
I still sometimes will have irrational jealous moments, but nothing that is detrimental to the relationship. In fact we laugh about them because they come out of no where and have no justification whatsoever.
That green-eyed monster can get out of control if not kept in check. I found that the people who brought out the most jealousy in me were not good for me in general. It's just another filtering tool for finding the person that is right for you.
I second about the counseling thing. I wouldn't go just for being jealous unless it's spurring anger issues or is caused by low self-esteem that you can't fix by yourself.
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