No, you're not a loser. You're just being honest about how you feel, which is a good place to start. I think maybe you have only been exposed to a certain kind of porn, however, which may also bias your opinion. Have you heard of Comstock Films? Google their website and check our their porn samples... it's exactly the stuff you want to see. Real couples having real sex, in real relationships... it's great stuff, and definitely gets me hot because it IS real. They're not pretending.
I must admit though, I am a big fan of the ol' in and out... sometimes that's the only kind of porn I want to see.
Comstock does that as well... you can do multiple camera angles with their videos, depending on what you want to see.