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I like porn. It took me a while (I had some of the same reactions you did, at first), but I warmed up to it and it gets me hot pretty quickly. I understand the function of it as a visual stimulation in order for men (and women) to get off quickly, and that's about how deep it goes, for most people. Once I internalized that fact, I stopped having a problem with porn.
The only issue I can see with your situation is if he was "sneaking off" to look at porn, when you weren't up for having sex... which is more about the attitude than the behavior itself. The ideal situation would be to communicate about it (e.g. "hon, I know you're tired, and I feel like masturbating... I'll be back in a few," or something like that). But, humans aren't always ideal, and maybe he's really just ashamed to tell you that he was looking at porn.
Sounds like you guys need to sit down and hash it all out, both sides of the issue, and be honest about your feelings and perceptions.
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