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Hmmm, I don't agree with RatBastid AT ALL. Yes, love is a verb. Yes, love sometimes takes a bit of work. However...
If there is no love, falsely "generating love" isn't really beneficial to either party. If you are in love with someone, and you work to make things even better, that's ideal. If you re in love with someone, and things just work out naturally between you, that's pretty good. If you are not in love with someone, forcing yourself to become so is not really the best option. It's actually rather similar to "staying together for the kids" which most professionals believe to be unhealthy. In fact, those things kind of go hand in hand in some situations. If you are not happy with your mate, then perhaps it's time to move on. If you are happy, but there are occasional issues, then working to persevere and make things better is the best way to go.
Merlocke, as to your OP, I think it varies from couple to couple. My ex-gf and I loved each other very much. But we couldn't be together for the length of a weekend without driving each other crazy. It had nothing to do with our emotions for each other, just how our personalities meshed. My wife and I could sit together in a room for eternity and be happy simply for each others company. Well, that might be a SLIGHT exaggeration, but realistically, we don't "tire" of each other. I'm not saying I love her more than my ex (I do, but for this example it's moot), I'm saying that our personalities mesh far better and we enjoy each other's company significantly more.
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