Why are you responsible for the leadership role?
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Originally Posted by Martian
What it more or less comes down to is that love, like a great many things, is not something that happens to us. It is, rather, a choice we make. Thus, it behooves us to take an active approach to it. Be romantic. Choose to spend time with your partner. Choose to be faithful. Choose to love her. If you sit passively without making those choices, if you fail to follow through on the act of loving someone, your relationship will stagnate and eventually fail. But if you do make that decision, to love that person to the best of your ability every day, you will find that love is one of the most rewarding endeavors you've ever undertaken.
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Martian speaks the truth, as well... bolding mine, but I love the way you expressed the personal responsibility we all have to maintain love in our lives. That is the key to a good marriage (that and sharing household chores, as was recently found in a Pew Research Center study
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Yep, love is not for the passive, for those who want to sit back and let life happen to them. You make it happen. If one or both people get stagnant... it's tough to recover from that. But so easy to prevent, if you make the choices every day. You have to choose it.