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I don't think religion has much to do with it. I come from a conservative Christian oriented family. The women rule. I am not sure where some people get the idea that Christianity represses women, they may be confused with Islam. So don't let that give you the wrong impression. In fact, I think the religion has made us stronger.
Anyways, to answer your question, you have a few options.
1. Leave it alone. It's not your business. It's between your mom and your dad. She made the choice.
However, you can choose to intervene if you really want to but it can get nasty. There is a reason kids are not advised to get in the middle of family disputes. If you decide to interfere, you can elect to:
2. Confront your dad. And be forceful. Man to man. Don't back down. He lost the right to be your father when he left you so don't pussy out and get all emotional. It's perfectly fine to defend or protect your mom. Tell him to knock it off and that he has no right to treat her that way etc, etc. Does he pay rent? Do you pay rent? Be careful here.
Do you have siblings? Get them involved and form a united front. Otherwise, man up. Be assertive. Be a man. Don't let your dad get away with that crap.
3. If she is religious, you can go to the Church to interfere. Talk to the pastor/priest, reverend (someone she trusts) and tell them your mom is being abused and that God doesn't like it when his children are being abused. She might be more apt to listen to the clergy.
4. Are you religious? If so, pray. Prayer works. You will find solace and serenity and calm. And in the end, you will find the answer.
Good luck.
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