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silentbob · 07-01-2007, 10:59 AM

hello tfp'ers,

i dont know where to start this or how i should go about explaining. i'm not here for pity points, or trying to get sympathy, i'm just really in need of some good advice.

my life has been pretty complicated, my parents have been married for a long time. however for the first 13-14 years of my life i spent living with my mother and other family members. i do not wish to go into detail as it isnt very pertinent to my post.

anyways fast forward a few years, because my mother is a very religious woman, she has put up with the whole ordeal throughout her life. she thought it was only right to move back in with my father.

so here i am now, i never really had a true relationship with my father as i spent most of my life with my mother and relatives. since i am in college, i dont have to put up with the awkwardness as much, but i sometimes feel really uncomfortable around my father.

to get to the point, i've recently found really nasty notes my father leaves for my mom to read while shes not at home. i will not go into exactly what these notes say, but they are somewhere along the lines of how she fails to be a proper house keeper etc etc. please keep in mind that she also works a full time job, as does my father.

these notes are really bothering me, i cant imagine what it does mentally to my mom... most of the time when im home from college, i hope i find these notes before my mom does and i usually shred it before she can read them.

i feel so lost, i dont know what i should do, im literally tearing up typing this... most of all i just feel bad for my mom having to put up with this during her lifetime. she deserves much much better. dont get me wrong, i dont want my father to sound like a complete villan, its just like somethings just not clicking in his head. sometimes hes really nice, and sometimes i dont even want to talk about it.

anyways, do you guys have any advice as to what i should do? i know i should probably man up and talk to my dad about this, but like i said before, it is REALLY weird for me to initiate a conversation with him, much less talk about something negative.

thanks for reading.

07-01-2007, 10:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
silentbob Upright	what do i do as a son? hello tfp'ers, i dont know where to start this or how i should go about explaining. i'm not here for pity points, or trying to get sympathy, i'm just really in need of some good advice. my life has been pretty complicated, my parents have been married for a long time. however for the first 13-14 years of my life i spent living with my mother and other family members. i do not wish to go into detail as it isnt very pertinent to my post. anyways fast forward a few years, because my mother is a very religious woman, she has put up with the whole ordeal throughout her life. she thought it was only right to move back in with my father. so here i am now, i never really had a true relationship with my father as i spent most of my life with my mother and relatives. since i am in college, i dont have to put up with the awkwardness as much, but i sometimes feel really uncomfortable around my father. to get to the point, i've recently found really nasty notes my father leaves for my mom to read while shes not at home. i will not go into exactly what these notes say, but they are somewhere along the lines of how she fails to be a proper house keeper etc etc. please keep in mind that she also works a full time job, as does my father. these notes are really bothering me, i cant imagine what it does mentally to my mom... most of the time when im home from college, i hope i find these notes before my mom does and i usually shred it before she can read them. i feel so lost, i dont know what i should do, im literally tearing up typing this... most of all i just feel bad for my mom having to put up with this during her lifetime. she deserves much much better. dont get me wrong, i dont want my father to sound like a complete villan, its just like somethings just not clicking in his head. sometimes hes really nice, and sometimes i dont even want to talk about it. anyways, do you guys have any advice as to what i should do? i know i should probably man up and talk to my dad about this, but like i said before, it is REALLY weird for me to initiate a conversation with him, much less talk about something negative. thanks for reading.