Philangicality

This guy sounds like me, and I am pretty much a mess. I'm working on getting better, but the age of twenty four is young. I know that I am not ready for a serrious happy relationship with a female yet, so pretty much avoiding them is my strategy. Casual sex is deffinetly on the menu. I know this strategy is not teaching me relationship skills, but to me, it is better to not put another person as well as myself through misery now for a weak relationship in the end. I would rather appear as a miserable and aloof person now and then die in some sort of solid and healthy relationship in both appearance and experience.

My guess of why this guy is abusive towards you is because he is trying to chase you away so you don't caught up in his drama. I know it is stupid, but sometimes when our worlds are so dissoriented we do not want to pull others into the bad shit we are experiencing.

Both of your personalities together are chaos and bad for you and him. I would let it go and move on.