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Originally Posted by guthmund
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Yeah, I read the ketchup comment as a reference to ejaculate....
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I see the reference now...  I take it, it might be over, maybe before its even started...
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Checklists and such of what to expect are kind of helpful, but, in the end, do more to increase anxiety levels than calm worried minds, in my opinion. You can have "bad sex" sex, but it as long as you're up on basic anatomy it's almost impossible to have "no sex" sex
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A list or a break down is actually helpful for me. It pretty much clears up my hieghtened/misinformed expectations in a more realistic take. Especially from others who have gone through this. I had been going through a fair bit of anxiety and kind of a fear I think, of the unknown since this has come up with us. It's uncovered alot of what I wouldn't have known or considered. A big part of it was just the anticipation of finally getting mine.I mean I haven't been obsessing about it, in that I'm still carrying on with my day to day activities. But until I'm with her..(actually as the day nears, I have been thinking on it alot) I didn't think I would take this matter to a forum,
much less one I'd just recently joined, and wasn't sure what to expect in the response but its all been good. I had though some would be telling me I can't be knowing I'm ready and I should be focussing on other things etc and maybe a listing of all the consequences.
And in concluding..I know I've splagged on about this...I can take most of what I've learned here to her. Maybe not the fact I've taken it to a forum..
It would be good for her to have her first time something positive to remember, even if we're not together, who can predict that? But hopefully she won't be having any regret. I know I won't no matter how the initial part of it unfolds.
Thanks for all the input. Now I can probably post something that won't pertain to my personal dilemmas too much.
Maybe I won't be obsessing about sex half as much once I've done it, or maybe more so ..again who knows.
I feel I'm ready for this and ready for taking our relationship to a new level. We are pretty comfortable with each other. I'm not sure what might happen as a result in regard to a emotional consequence, but physicaly I now think I do.I know she's feeling anxious, if not more and I'm not going to push things beyond what she is comfortable with. If she says no, I'll respect that..even if it means suffering a bit of let down ther after..maybe more physically then emotionally on my part.
woohoo im going to get mine \o/