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Originally Posted by ngdawg
Way too many times I've seen couples where one or the other and sometimes both basically 'settle in' after the marriage ceremony, as if it was just a big dinner and now they can kick off their shoes and sit back and let things happen instead of making them happen.
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Yep, and I think even those couples really LOVE each other, and intend for it to last forever... but they don't put in the daily work that is required in order to MAKE love (some pun intended). Love isn't self-sustaining, in my mind... it's like a bicycle wheel that you just have to keep spinning (in the air), adding a bit of energy to on a regular basis in order to keep the momentum up. That's why I agree that complacency is the #1 killer of marriages... once you sit back and "let things happen," love eventually stops happening.