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If you have known him for 2 years now, I think you should already have some good idea of his temper and personality. You have seen it change in different circumstances, and from what you said, it seems to me like rather extreme circumstances. Let's pretend that his personality is unchangeable. If it is unchangeable and his moodiness occurs sometimes, can you still tolerate him as a long term boyfriend or maybe even husband? How much can you trust him when he says he regrets doing something bad to you and tells you part of it was because of the circumstances?
I don't know if telling my story will help. If you think it doesn't, you can stop reading this paragraph and skip to the next. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now. There were a few times when we had very big arguments and we wanted to break up. He said things that were hurtful and made some threats. He never did act upon those threats but I was still scared during that time. Looking back, I now know that he is not the sort of person who will ever act upon threats or truly mean the words he said. He never hits me and I know from his character that he never hits even his male peers. He is moody when there is stress and it makes him have less control of what he says and what emotions he has. So when he is stressed because of work or other things, I can now be wary and not take every word for truth until he calms down. It is only a small part of his personality. It doesn't occur frequently to the point where I am always scared and want to leave him.
Your personality may say that you can never tell your significant other horrible things. But everyone has a different personality. Maybe his personality is more impulsive and spontaneous so it makes him say bad things and then regret. This is why I think it is important to understand what his personality is like and what can make him moody so you can be aware of when it is a bad time to talk about serious things or anything that triggers bad temper. It is really a compromise for you to make. I don't know what he will say if he makes a thread, so I cannot offer him advice for his own compromise.
As for how you feel about your physical appearance, I have not seen your face, but it is usually safe to assume most females are prettier than me. You should be prettier than me. I know this sounds like I am being bad to myself, but it is a fact. My entire family has small bodies, small butts, small breasts. I am the same and most people say I look more like "cute" than "beautiful". I am satisfied to be cute. It is true that there are many people more beautiful than you, but don't you think that there is an even greater number of people uglier than you? You were pretty enough to attract that man 2 years ago when he did not know too much about you except what you look like. I think it is safe to say that it was his first impression that you were beautiful which led you two to become so close afterwards. It sounds superficial but from what other people tell me and what I think, you cannot fall in love with someone if you think they are ugly. What things are said about appearance afterwards in the relationship are pale in comparison.
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