Creizen

Hey so I have a problem which just makes me uncomfortable, basically my gf still seems to be so infatuated with her ex, and every male friend of hers she ever introduces me to, is a person she's had sex with.

Now I trust my gf, we spend nearly all our time together atm, I love her immensly but its just incredibly uncomfortable for me to accept these people being in my life, her ex, and ex-lovers. I've talked with her about it, but she seems to take it as some offence that I don't like her friends. Now I know you stay good friends with your ex's and lovers, but as an example, her ex boyfriend phones her and she's like "I miss you so much" , acting all happy, "I miss your voice". I mean is this weird or am I just overreacting when I feel uncomfortable. She's doing this right next to me, like I'm not there. Whenever I'm doing work in my apartment, i.e I've not got time for her, she goes and talks to her ex-boyfriend. I once caught sight of a message before "You'll always be in my heart, but If I think of you, I'll fall in love with you again". I think she was just trying to placate him, my trust is still strong for her, but why does she have to be like this?

The other example of her ex-lovers is this guy she always wants to see if we walk near his house, who she thinks is amazing, but is infact this utter dumbass, letch of a guy who when they meet tries to get his hands all over her. He infact months ago promised his undying love for her. He just employs women and then corners them into sex as far as I can gather. He's a complete fake basically but she can't see it. Anyway there are many other examples of this kind of thing, guys from clubs etc, this really annoying guy who keeps calling her, asking her for sex all the time, even though he's met me. I mean argh!

The situation before was this : when we first got together, she had like 3 boyfriends at once.. Anyway the ex I talk about is the one she only really contacted online, I think they met once. But anyway when we met she dumped them all. ( I'm actually good friends with one of them now, he's actually a nice guy, he's helped me with getting a job..). Anyway the one online basically just didn't believe her dumping him, and still just acts like he's with her, and she doesn't really do anything about that.

In all of this, am I just overreacting, being jealous, not trusting, I mean I feel I trust her, so in that way why would I be bothered about anything, but its not that, its the guys that annoy me, guys which just use her, and she's too naive to realise. Then I think, am I just another person, using her for my own love. I feel I mainly want to make her enjoy things and be happy, that makes me happy, is that selfish?

I wouldn't think of ever introducing her to my ex-girlfriends/one night stands, it'd be really uncomfortable for me also. I mean a few of my relationships we just broke up as "friends" but we never really kept in contact that much longer because we found other people. My gf seems like she doesn't want to let go.

In the end I think I'm a mix of jealousy(sort of like just wanting her to forget all the people she's cared about, and only care for me) and being uncomfortable. Does anyone have some idea about this situation, or similar situations and how they feel and dealt with it? I know I'm not perfect, but I really want to spend the rest of my life with this girl, and just make her happy, experience everything with her. It just seems her past keeps on interrupting us and she doesn't want to let it go.