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In my opinion, there are no inherent rights or wrongs when it comes to sex and relationships. There are some things that are socially unacceptable, and come pretty close to being inherently, universally wrong (sex acts that involve dead people or close relatives, for instance, are one example). But short of that, there's no "right" or "wrong" out there in the world.
There are, however, personal boundaries. And it's completely ok and normal to have them, and what works is to communicate them and stick to them. You've got to have the courage and honesty to look at whether a particular thing is within your comfort zone or not, and if not, whether you're willing to relax that boundary in service of your relationship with that person. And it's okay not to be willing. But working this all out is a critical part of a relationship.
To say that more simply: there's nothing wrong with your girlfriend doing porn unless you say there is.
If this is a deal-breaker for you, and she insists on doing it anyway, that likely means the end of the relationship. It doesn't have to be a deal breaker--though it would take an exceptional person to not have it be one.
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