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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
Is she supposed to live the rest of her life with him having to suddenly leave parties because this guy showed up.
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You're either misunderstanding or intentionally obfuscating the actual situation. We're not talking about a situation in which she was at the party and this guy happened to show up. We're talking about a situation in which BEFORE she went to the party, she KNEW he would be there, and INTENTIONALLY kept that secret from her boyfriend who was nice enough to forgive her for cheating on him.
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The girl has no chance to prove that she WILL be faithful to him because he's acting dictator.
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She's already admitted that she was planning to wait until after the party to tell him that her ex-lover was there. She had the chance to prove that she was trustworthy and wasn't hiding anything, and she blew it. Again. Exactly how many chances do you think she should get?
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I completely understand him saying "dont associate with him" to me that does not include having to run scared because this guy showed up at a social situation she was at.
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Perhaps not, but it certainly means that she shouldn't be deceitful about intentionally going somewhere that she knows he is going to show up to.
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Either he chose to forgive and take her back, or he chose to take her back so he could lord her infidelity over her head for the rest of her life and punish her for what she did.
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Oh please.
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True forgiveness and telling her she cant associate with her friends because "fucker" might be there do not go hand in hand IMO.
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Look, forgiving someone doesn't mean you have to be a moron. And again, you're missing the point. This wasn't a situation where the guy MIGHT be there. He was absolutely going to be there. And she knew it. And hid that fact from him. I'm frankly surprised you're defending that.
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If I were her after this situation I'd be cutting all ties with the OP. I would refuse to deal with knowing he had not actually forgiven what I'd done.
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I think he'd be better off if she followed that advice.
Estevez, I disagree with you about point 2 - that's a major offense as well. If she did it because she didn't want to get into trouble, then she knows that what she is planning to is, wrong or not, going to hurt her boyfriend. Again. Hiding what she's going to do until she has already done it is pathetic.
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There is a huge difference if she got back together out of convenience (say if 'fucker' got tired of her and moved on... then she goes and tries to win back shoe) or out of commitment (if after she lost shoe, she realized she really wanted him... and broke it off with 'fucker').
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In the context of this thread, no, there isn't. She got back together with him. Whatever the reasons, she made a commitment, and agreed to commit to a very reasonable condition that she not be with her ex lover again, and has now admitted that she was going to intentionally break her commitment. Again.