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Thanks for the replies everyone.
Maybe i am being immature. I am however not controlling her life and certainly not playing 'dictator' with who she may see . I am also not punishing her everyday for her infidelity. She obviously has the right to go out with her friends and i dont have a word to say about that.
Ray, the mutual friend between my GF and this other guy, has been out of town for nearly a year and she has'nt seen him nor the other guy for about that time. She had told me she was going to this party at Ray's house and i was totally cool with that. Eventually it came to my mind that this other guy might be there and so i asked her about it. She then confessed that she was going to tell me after the party if i didn't bring it up with her. That is what really pissed me off. I dont question her everytime she goes out to see who she's with.
Last summer, my relationship with her went downhill for several reasons. I was really busy working and she was quite busy going out with her friends. Eventually, she just pushed me aside instead of communicating. Lots of frustration and pain for me. When she admitted to her infidelity i broke it off immediately and her relationship with the other guy dwindled about 1 day after. He was apparently playing her. We stopped speaking for months and she realized how much i meant for her.
Like i said.. maybe i am being immature. Maybe i come across as this evil and controlling lover. I assure you, i'm really not. I just dont want last summer to repeat itself. Maybe i still dont fully trust her in this regard. Especially with this guy. I want to trust her, i know i need to for the sake of the relationship. Heart and mind are both quite different. I just have these sick memories of last summer... I just have a really hard time dealing with this.
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