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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
Distance doesn't allow for natural things to take their due course
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Yes, very well put... and I think it is almost unsurvivable, when it happens early in a relationship. You have to lay some kind of normal foundation, based on seeing each other regularly, before having the stamina to get through an extended distance.
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I think in some cases though distance can mask and hide other problems.
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I very much agree with this as well. I think distance can be both a test/catalyst/crucible, bringing people's true feelings and character into light, OR it can be used to not face reality and see that compatibility no longer exists. This is the case I'm afraid of with my transatlantic friends who are engaged... they almost don't know each other anymore, and they are starting to realize how much each person has changed after 3 years of that strain. They need to get to know one another again on a daily, physical basis before deciding to follow through with the planned marriage... at least, that is what one of them has told me.