asaris,
where's your god now?!?
ok, couldn't resist...hopefully you won't mind the little jokey joke
listen not to these naysayers! i've had some awful experiences with long distance situations, but i've also had some great experiences with them. a
lot of it depends on how well y'all really click, and what your individual personalities are. my first bit of advice is going to sound pretty fucked up; don't think about her all the time.
tell her you think about her all the time; don't lie, just exaggerate a bit. that's how you start missing someone so much it kills the relationship...thinking about them
all the time. so do other shit. i know i know, you're in western michigan and all; shit, head to chicago for the summer. next up; don't obsess over what she's doing
all the time. tell her you think about her, but don't let yourself wonder too much what she's doing, who she's doing it with etc. once again, you'll go crazy. now, do all this romantic junk that's been suggested...i'm just saying that if you choose to make it a focus of your perspective that 'oh my god i'm in a long distance relationship...this is so hard...i miss her so much...oh, its friday night i wonder what she's doing?...' well, guess what you're going to be focussed on?
personally, i've always felt that if i was going to be 'serious' serious with someone, i'd rather have a period of time where we were separated...and i suppose i'd rather it be soon than late to some extent. regardless, as
tenniels stated above, you do learn different things about your personalities, both as individuals and as a couple and the way you relate to one another. i would also suggest putting it in perspective; if it doesn't work out, what have you really lost? if you're aware that emotional pain is a part of life and that sometimes things go wrong or not as planned....well hmmm. this may sound a bit off, but i find i can somewhat enjoy the bittersweet pain of an emotional affair ending; that particular emotion is also a part of being alive, and being alive is pretty grand. so really, i don't see how you have anything to lose in this.
a lot of the way this plays out is completely within the power of the two of you to shape; so choose your perspectives and enjoy the summer.
get the fuck out of western michigan. that's a start
