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People generally misunderstand forgiveness. We say, "I forgive you", and we mean, "I release you from the consequences of your earlier action, but I'll be watching for you to do it again." Obviously there's no real forgiveness there. That sort of "forgiveness" is just plain toxic.
Consider the word "forgive". In earlier iterations of the English language, it was spelled "foregive", and it meant quite literally to "fore-give". To give that person how it was before, as if the thing you're forgiving them for never happened.
You're either willing to do that, or you're not. Even if you DO do that, that doesn't mean you have to be a doormat. You can say, "I forgive you, and it doesn't work for us to be together anymore." But until you're dealing with REAL forgiveness (including, possibly, your choice not to extend her real forgiveness), not much is possible in your relationship with her.
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