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Originally Posted by cyklone
I think you must have been reading my mail. I'm with little-tippler on this, all the way. I have noticed that a couple's sex life seems to be the barometer of their relationship, not that having more sex makes it better, but when there is none, there is something going very wrong in the relationship. Normally around the emotional communication stuff, and if one person has physical difficulties, we all know there is more than one way of getting off.
I've been down the track of being in a relationship with a "sexual anorexic" myself and as with little-tippler, no matter how much you try and fool yourself, you eventually realise you are doing just that.
And being a guy may mean you have an easier time getting an orgasm, but I'd be tempted to swap that for the opportunity of having multiples  You can keep the childbirth stuff though |
This is what prompted this discussion.
I recently got out of a LDR that was waining sexually for the last eight months. There were several reasons but I couldn't help feeling unwanted and unattractive. This really should have been a sign to me that things were not right in her mind. There were always excuses and rarely were we even comfortable sleeping in the same bed towards the end . I was more than willing to over look a lot of this because it was going to get better when we were in the same place and because of how I felt about her.
This was tough being that I'm a very sexual person and she, just by her own nature is not but in my head worth it because everything else was good in the relationship.
My only point is that emotions like love can make up for a lot of physical or sexual differences, but in the end (good ol hindsight) it is something very important and can often (as been said) be a barometer for whats really going on in the relationship.