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I have had problems in my sex life while in serious relationships and I have tried to kid myself it shouldn't be that important. But it is - at least to me.
If your sex life isn't going well, then your relationship can't be well either.
balanced sexual intimacy and the ability to communicate effectively with your partner, to me, go hand in hand.
I personally can't connect to someone physically if the emotional side isn't there - when that happens, I just feel empty at the end. I don't find any enjoyment in it so why bother?
I feel that I am able to connect to someone "romantically" even if the physical side isn't entirely there. But I'll tell you one thing, I need an o0rgasm every now and then, otherwise I just start to doubt everything. Sadly, I am not one of those very mature people who can affirm with great conviction that the big "O" isn't everything. It may not be everything, but it sure is fucking nice and sometimes I wish I was a guy as they seem to have an easier time (generally) in getting one.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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