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aa1037 · 05-08-2007, 08:39 AM

Hey all

I lost my virginity to my girlfriend last night and I figured I would tell you some of the good and bad and get your advice.

Here goes...
The other day she told me that she wanted to have sex with me (she was not a virgin), but that night I did not have any protection with me, so we put it off until yesterday. Anyway, we started making out last night and going through the motions, when when it came time to get naked and put on the condom, I lost my erection. It was completely embarrassing somewhat traumatizing. I attribute it to me building myself up and being wayyyyy too anxious all day leading up to that point. I basically had 24 hours to anticipate it, and I lost my nerve.

My girlfriend was amazing and completely understanding. I took a moment to myself, went to the bathroom, came back and we just laid there and talked for a while. I told her how I felt and that the fact the sex wasn't as spontaneous definitely gave me lots of anxiety, especially since it was my first time. The funny thing was that at this point, I was completely relaxed. The worst of it was over and I was actually able to get an erection again, we furiously made out and went at each other, and we actually had sex. It was SUCH a relief to get over the hump (pun intended)

Do you agree that my going soft initially was because I over-hyped myself to the point of anxiety?

The other thing I found out last night was that my girlfriend is narrow. She explained to me that sex is pretty painful but she thinks she'll adapt and it will get better. I couldn't help but feel bad that I was the person, in a way, who caused her that pain. Anyone have some advice about this situation? I'd like to think we take it easy and softer until it is not as painful for her.

Thanks for listening!

05-08-2007, 08:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
aa1037 Insane Location: New York	had my first time last night Hey all I lost my virginity to my girlfriend last night and I figured I would tell you some of the good and bad and get your advice. Here goes... The other day she told me that she wanted to have sex with me (she was not a virgin), but that night I did not have any protection with me, so we put it off until yesterday. Anyway, we started making out last night and going through the motions, when when it came time to get naked and put on the condom, I lost my erection. It was completely embarrassing somewhat traumatizing. I attribute it to me building myself up and being wayyyyy too anxious all day leading up to that point. I basically had 24 hours to anticipate it, and I lost my nerve. My girlfriend was amazing and completely understanding. I took a moment to myself, went to the bathroom, came back and we just laid there and talked for a while. I told her how I felt and that the fact the sex wasn't as spontaneous definitely gave me lots of anxiety, especially since it was my first time. The funny thing was that at this point, I was completely relaxed. The worst of it was over and I was actually able to get an erection again, we furiously made out and went at each other, and we actually had sex. It was SUCH a relief to get over the hump (pun intended) Do you agree that my going soft initially was because I over-hyped myself to the point of anxiety? The other thing I found out last night was that my girlfriend is narrow. She explained to me that sex is pretty painful but she thinks she'll adapt and it will get better. I couldn't help but feel bad that I was the person, in a way, who caused her that pain. Anyone have some advice about this situation? I'd like to think we take it easy and softer until it is not as painful for her. Thanks for listening!