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Originally Posted by Kpax
I have another question. Does your "first love" have to be someone you dated and talked to for hours on the phone? Does it have to have been mutual? If "mutual" is the key word, then I guess I have never been in love...  |
It would be helpful for us if, along with your questions, you would also tell us what's going on behind the questions. That is usually how we do things here on TFP... not just ask random questions with no explanation.
That said, what do you mean by "HAVE TO BE" ? There is no set "rule" for what defines love. For me, it just took growing up first (or at least, being in my mid-20s) before I learned how to define love more realistically. I don't think being *in love* and having a *first love* are the same things. You can be in love with someone all you want, and not have it returned... I've been down that road. But to have a "first love," I do think it needs to be requited... both people ought to have warm, fuzzy feelings for each other. Otherwise, it is just infatuation with another human being.
But this is all in my own opinion, no one else's. It would be helpful if we knew more about your particular situation, in order to reply more effectively.