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Originally Posted by Manic_Skafe
It's been 3 years with my currently g/f and I'm still not completely over the ex. Part of me wants to call her and try to smooth things over so that maybe we can have a decent friendship but we did so much damage to each other that I'm convinced the best thing I could do for her is leave her alone......we've had so many "first ever" experiences together that I know I'll never be able to get over her....
If I weren't with my g/f now then I'd consider giving her a call but I'm involved so that won't happen. Her birthday is a few months from now - I've been thinking about sending her a bouquet of Spring flowers and a nice card but I haven't decided yet....
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this made me feel a little sad for your girlfriend, but i do know what it's like to be in a relationship with someone while you're not completely over your ex.
i gave up a lot for that ex (first love) of mine and i always wondered if it was something i'd done wrong that made him cheat on me. i thought if only i knew where i'd gone wrong then i can change it and we be together again. i did contact him but he was already in a relationship with 2 kids so i couldn't really go there. i asked him why he did what he did but i never got a reply. and when i really thought about it, i realised i didn't really need an answer from him, i always knew the answer but i wanted him to tell me. we broke up in 1996, i have had a couple of relationships after i split with him but none of them worked. i was in a bad way for a long time, but then i met someone new last year and somehow he made me stop thinking about that first love. we were seeing each other for a few weeks last year but broke up and i saw him again this year thinking we were going to get back together but we've just split up again a few weeks ago. so now it's a different ex that i can't get out of my head
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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
I was 16. He was 35. It lasted for two years. He introduced me to cocaine and his wayward friends. When I was 18 he dumped me. About six months later he became born again and tried to get me back, but by then I had emerged from that dysfunctional haze and was able to dismiss him handily. Oh, but my god, did I love him once. I believe I did.
I don't look back on it as all bad. There certainly were some bad times and times that make me wince a little to think of, but there were good times, too. For the most part he treated me very well. He was a mess - selfish and fucked up - but he wasn't all bad. I think he loved me too, even though he realized it too late.
I wouldn't mind seeing him again and saying hi. Letting him know that I'm alright...if I were him, I think I would be happy to hear that.
But I'm not about to look him up or anything. If we didn't bump into each other after all these years, then maybe it's for the best.
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whoa, that's a huge age gap! sorry to point out the obvious. i was seeing someone a lot younger than myself (8 years younger) and i hope he has fond memories of me.