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Originally Posted by dfence
I'm wondering lurkette, as an introvert, what is your social situation/group like? A couple of close friends? Do you go partying/clubbing at all? Hobbies?... that is, if you feel comfortable to share.
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I have a circle of close friends - about a dozen or so. I call them "the Tribe." I don't really go partying or clubbing - just doesn't appeal to me. But I do have lots of hobbies - belly dancing, swing dancing, stained glass, theater, etc.
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Also, this method of focusing on the other person may work in that situation, but what about when with a group of semi-distant friends at a party or something? My guess would be to (and I don't do all of this, but it sounds like a good idea), smile, initiate conversation, listen, don't try to impress them, be unpredictable, focus on the situation and people rather than yourself, and probably just try and have 'fun'.
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I think it's even easier in a group of semi-distant friends. You know enough about their lives to ask more focused questions about their jobs, their families, their hobbies. I'm fine where I know people pretty well and at least have some connection with them; it's among total strangers that I freeze up and want to go home. So, yeah - smile, listen ask questions, and have fun!