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dfence · 04-28-2007, 08:40 PM

Push-Pull
"You can learn to "broadcast" a different signal than your current mood. It's not something you'll do tomorrow, but it can be done."

And how do you give out different emotions than your mood?
I might not do it tomorrow, but tomorrow I will try

lurkette
"If you can ask genuine, intelligent questions (or even reasonably thoughtful ones) that get them talking about their opinions and their interests, they will think you are the best conversationalist ever."

I try doing this sometimes and yes it works! I guess I just worry that they realize that they're the ones doing all the talking and think less of me or something. Good to see we share the same method and it's especially good to hear from a fellow introvert... I'm not alone!
I'm wondering lurkette, as an introvert, what is your social situation/group like? A couple of close friends? Do you go partying/clubbing at all? Hobbies?... that is, if you feel comfortable to share.

Also, this method of focusing on the other person may work in that situation, but what about when with a group of semi-distant friends at a party or something? My guess would be to (and I don't do all of this, but it sounds like a good idea), smile, initiate conversation, listen, don't try to impress them, be unpredictable, focus on the situation and people rather than yourself, and probably just try and have 'fun'.

Charlatan
"Most will never notice that you have done this and said little about yourself."

I hope they don't!
And how goes your battles?

I've just today had a successful run of conversation with some work friends... I made them laugh a couple times, thoughts just popped into my head and I acted on them. Things I think I need to work on looking back at it are... my tone of voice needs to vary more, I need to lean back more and say things in a relaxed position.

This is day 1.

04-28-2007, 08:40 PM	#5 (permalink)
dfence Upright	Push-Pull "You can learn to "broadcast" a different signal than your current mood. It's not something you'll do tomorrow, but it can be done." And how do you give out different emotions than your mood? I might not do it tomorrow, but tomorrow I will try lurkette "If you can ask genuine, intelligent questions (or even reasonably thoughtful ones) that get them talking about their opinions and their interests, they will think you are the best conversationalist ever." I try doing this sometimes and yes it works! I guess I just worry that they realize that they're the ones doing all the talking and think less of me or something. Good to see we share the same method and it's especially good to hear from a fellow introvert... I'm not alone! I'm wondering lurkette, as an introvert, what is your social situation/group like? A couple of close friends? Do you go partying/clubbing at all? Hobbies?... that is, if you feel comfortable to share. Also, this method of focusing on the other person may work in that situation, but what about when with a group of semi-distant friends at a party or something? My guess would be to (and I don't do all of this, but it sounds like a good idea), smile, initiate conversation, listen, don't try to impress them, be unpredictable, focus on the situation and people rather than yourself, and probably just try and have 'fun'. Charlatan "Most will never notice that you have done this and said little about yourself." I hope they don't! And how goes your battles? I've just today had a successful run of conversation with some work friends... I made them laugh a couple times, thoughts just popped into my head and I acted on them. Things I think I need to work on looking back at it are... my tone of voice needs to vary more, I need to lean back more and say things in a relaxed position. This is day 1.