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When it comes to your co-workers thinking you're introverted, I think that you'll find that there's other signals you're giving out than just not talking enough. For example, when you're ticked off, you don't have to say a word, and most people can tell. To a lessor extent, the same goes on when you're shy, afraid, not confident, or even happy. People sense your "vibe". It's instinct. You can learn to "broadcast" a different signal than your current mood. It's not something you'll do tomorrow, but it can be done.
As far as social skills, start with someone(s) you feel good about. Have in-depth conversations with them about non-important stuff. (avoid politics) Build up your confidence a little at a time. Don't overthink it. Everything you do to this end gives you some experience, even the bad experiences will help in the long run. Don't try and grade yourself while you're doing it, but rather, later on think it through and decided what adjustments you need to make for the next day. I'm making it sound like a lesson plan, but in reality, I've always found that if I'm having a specific trouble, just dealing with it is half the battle. I may have to deal with it every day, but I deal with it and eventually, I've gotten it straightened out.
Best of luck to you.
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