I'm not sure about your bolding problem, but as far as the journals go, the user needs to make sure that your user number is in their list, not your name. For instance if you click on JustJess; you'll see
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/member.php?u=75145
they need to put in the number at the end in order for you to be able to view/comment.
At least I think that's how it works now.. maybe an admin can stop in here and clarify.