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I wish there was some kind of sexual etiquette. I had one boyfriend who used to cut me with a razor and suck the bleeding cuts. It wasn't assault, since I let him - I can't even blame craziness in my youth, since I'm still firmly in it (my youth and the crazy spell). Usually, they weren't anything serious - just meant steristrips for a week-10 days. Having said that, violence (at least, with him) could get out of hand. I don't know whether it's the same in everyone, when they see what they can inflict upon someone - it excites them[?] Sometimes it would be... more than unpleasant, and violence became uncontrollable sexual urges, which weren't nice. In fairness, he didn't care how much I scratched/bit him.
On the other hand, another guy I was with refused to go to a lecture he had the following morning because he had a few minor bruises on his neck.
How can you know what's normal? I have to agree with MrFriendly that if both people consent (or maybe more than both - however many), it's fine. The problem is, it isn't usually something you discuss before hand... It just... happens.
I'm tempted to go with the school of thought that says regretting it afterwards isn't worth it. It's all experience; it's got to be good. Then again, whatever people say about scars healing, they don't. Things can go too far - and what's too far?
Argh.
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