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My wife lost her little brother about five years ago (in fact, we're coming up on the anniversary). I learned a lot about this then, mostly by completely fucking it up.
The most important thing is to remember that whatever she's feeling or experiencing is what she's feeling or experiencing, and there's nothing wrong with any of it. If she's experiencing grief or sadness or loss (and that's very likely), then she needs to be experiencing those things right now. It doesn't mean she'll be that way permanently, but it does mean you don't need to cheer her up or make her feel better. She'll feel better when she resolves it in her own time. For the time being, what there is to do is to accept her feelings, and help her to accept them.
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