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My girlfriend's grandfather just passed away in the hospital after 4 days in the ICU. Her entire family is devastated and freaking out. She called me earlier today crying when they had to put tubes in him and called me again a few minutes ago to tell me of his passing.

I've had family members die, but my family had always handled things differently. Maybe it's the way we were brought up, but we all understand death is part of life and that there is nothing you can do when it's time. We know that the family member had a happy life and we all move on. We aren't religious at all (I'm atheist), but the older members of my family are somewhat spiritual (buddist beliefs to be exact). My grandmother doesn't have much time either, but she's not afraid of death and lives her life as happy as she can. If she were to pass away, I would of course be sad, but I would know she was happy and had a big family be there for her most treasured moments.

I'm just kind of shocked in a way how my girlfriend's family is reacting and I'm not even sure what to say or do for her. I told her I was really sorry to hear and that I would be there for her when she needed me. I'm dropping my plans tomorrow night to see her. I'm don't want to come off as insensitive or anything when I see her. I'm not sure how to handle the situation because of the differences my family has always delt with this issue.

I feel really bad for her and her family because she told me her grandfather was really scared of dying. It wasn't pretty either when he passed, but luckily he wasn't conscience for it. Her family also kept her grandmother at home and in the dark about how bad it was until the end.