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Tried and found someone matching his birthyear (age) and in the area his roommate told me he was in when he had last heard from him (before he told the roommate he was going to Argentina).

It gave me an address and a phone number even. I called some lady with an older very polite voice answered and I hung up.

I am scared now. I want to ask and see it may or may not be him. (My gut feeling is if this isn't him then he truly doesn't want to be found and if it is him .... am I ready for rejection or worse yet acceptance from him.)

Now my question is how do I go about talking to this man and asking him, without having him believe I am after something?

All, I want is to let him know I would like to meet him just once.

I look at myself and my situation and I wanted to know my son and have him know me. But not everyone is like that. Some people just don't care.

I look at the fact he did look us up when I was 5, and the fact my mother told him to leave us alone.

Can I handle the rejection? Can I handle the acceptence? I know I need to call and talk to this man at least.

How would any of you handle someone coming to you 40 years later and saying their your son?

BTW given where he lives, I would say he is very wealthy.... if this is him. I know his family had money when he was with my mother.... how do I convince him it isn't about money just my wanting to know him?

Or handle going to a man you have never met and at age 40 say your his offspring?

I truly need advice and how others would handle this....... PLEASE HELP.

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I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"