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Originally Posted by The_Jazz
Outside of suggesting things you've already tried, I don't have anything new to add other than a suggestion that paying someone else to do the search may be the best bet. And by "someone" I mean a professional who's directly answerable to you for results rather than access to a search engine. It seems like the most reliable way to get results, but the cost/benefit equation may not work for you.
Good luck, regardless.
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Thanks Jazz.
I have thought about that, a few years back I was going to hire a private detective, but didn't.
From all the information I am getting and the weird contradictions... one person says he was in Austin, one says he was in W. Va. at the same time, what he told my mom in '72 and what else I'm seeing..... I truly worry that in finding him I may be opening something up I will deeply regret.
On the other hand, I may get the true closure I need and want and find him to be a lot like myself, much the way I found my son to be.
Either way, I need to find him because something inside won't let me rest until I do.
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Originally Posted by flstf
About 10 years ago I was given the task of trying to find one of our classmates by the HS reunion committee. The only thing we knew was his name and the year he graduated.
After searching for hours on the net I gave up and hired one of the net detective sites. They found out his SS etc. and found out he retired from the Navy. They got his address but he did not have a phone so they gave me the phone numbers of two of his neighbors in some housing project.
I managed to have one of his neighbors get him but he did not want to talk and had no interest in the reunion. I don't think he really wanted to be found.
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What net detective did you use?
I tried one yesterday, and after paying $30 they gave me nothing of use no phone numbers just a list of names not even ages and this one had some good writeups on it. So I'm weary to try again...don't have the money.
When he came in '72 my mom basically told him to get lost, that he left her and I was adopted by a man who gave me his last name and loved me and she didn't want my real father to be a part of my life. So he may not of contacted me because of that.
I know he came from a pretty rich family and that his father died when he was a kid. He has an older sister that at the time he dated my mom lived in Colorado and was a lesbian.
I also believe if I keep knocking on doors, I'll find someone that knows something and will give me the key I need. It's just finding that person.
My paranoid/conspiracy side says with the conflicting stories I have found someone that knows something but isn't sharing the truth and is throwing me a red herring. My truest fear is that if he was shady, I may find someone who wants to find him also and will use me to find him.
But I'm just weird that way. He's probably some normal lawyer in Texas somewhere with a happy family that never gave me a second thought and will be scared that I'll disrupt his life. The answer to everything maybe so easy I'm overlooking it because I'm focussed on the wrong thing (his military schoolmates.)