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Originally Posted by cadre
Okay, I don't know if any of these people remember high school but I do. There is almost always a huge difference between someone at 15 and someone at 18. Even if she seems mature and she thinks she's mature, she's not. That's just how it is. (generalization I know). I can say this because I've been dating since I was about 13 and I don't think I've ever dated someone my age. At 15 I was in a relationship with a guy that was two years older and I thought I was mature but I was not. Bluedot, just think of when you were her age. Then there's the legal aspect, and there's the fact that if she's fifteen I don't believe she needs to be doing anything such as you would probably like. If you really like her and she really likes you it will wait.
That sounded pessimistic..but on the bright side. It could possibly work out for you if you pursued it now. I just wouldn't reccomend that.
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I remember high school all too well...ah, the drama....
At 13, I was 'seeing' a 21 year old-'seeing' being that we'd meet up at church youth group, snuggle, kiss a lot. He didn't know I was 13 when we first met, he thought I was 16.
At that age, I thought this was the coolest thing ever-my first boyfriend was a 'man'. Then I realized, he's a dork.
Point is, at those early teenage times, we rarely, if ever, know what love is, what true relationships mean-we just want the labels and the sucky-face feelings. The times it works out are so rare, it's a crapshoot at best. And those that say they've been together 10 years, 12, etc., are still young; in today's world, with all relationships under the threat of being temporary, age difference is an added obstacle; for every 'success', there are three or more failures.
If the desire to be with someone so young is that strong, I'd say move really really slow-start as friends, stay vertical, allow for growth and discovery.
She just better not be
my kid
