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Talk to your wife. If you can't talk to your wife then someone else that you can be completely honest with and not worry about being judged (your wife should fall under that category.. but /shrug...) Talk to your insurance company. Anything relating to mental health is fucking expensive - you don't want to pay it all out of pocket.

You'll know the pros from the quacks. The quacks will give you creepy feelings or otherwise bother you. That's my experience otherwise. Regardless, do something before you do *actually* have a breakdown of *any* kind.

edit: Something to add. Based on my experiences - be glad that you are having these feelings and take them as a sign that something in your life needs to change. And trust in the people that love you to help you out - even if they don't necessarily understand.