Has anyone read Regina Lynn's column or blog? I don't remember in which location I saw it but.. she has covered this topic. There's either a book or a website out there titled something along the line of "A Good Girl's Guide to Porn." I also like her blog for taking a female's view of porn. Some day when I have the money I'll probably take some of her recommendations....
Her blog:
http://blog.wired.com/sex/
Her column, which updates Fridays, I think:
http://www.wired.com/news/columns/0,...tw=rss.columns
After a very quick search of Wired Blogs it might be a book titled "A Smart Girl's Guide to Porn."
Hopefully this will help.