ngdawg has good advice. One way I put it that has helped others 'get it' - think of your head as a tool to massage a clitoris and vagina, not as a hammer.
It will take alot of patience, stamina, and there will be problems. Persistence pays.
Even so she still looks to be in a lot of pain and it's starting to make me want to not make love to her. She also says she can't come from straight intercourse sex which makes the whole thing seem kinda pointless.
Most women think that, and some can't. But many who think they can't can. Here's a set of questions I ask everytime someone tells me they can't.
1) Can you get there with other tools? Usually yes
2) How long does that take? 30-60 minutes
And here's the kicker that men and women never seem to connect:
3) What's the longest any guy has lasted? less than 30 minutes
If 2 > 3, then she thinks something is wrong with her! There's nothing wrong with her!
Obviously, you are a good guy, in that you are concerned not just about getting it to work, but that it is difficult for her. You're going to have to make time for that. It is probably going to take more than 3 days. But given that you both are already trying so hard, perhaps you shouldn't put a time limit on it.
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