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Having read your OP and subsequent updates, I think really she just wanted to have her cake and eat it. Granted she may be confused, but to tell you repeatedly that she loves you but then tell you to back off so she can think about it is just denial of what's obvious: she doesn't want to commit to you. Not as in right now, but I mean to you specifically. She may be coming out of a tough relationship and need some space, but there's a difference between wanting some space, and telling someone to go away (and come back when I need a fuck buddy). When the people are really right, together, timing is the last thing on anyone's mind - at least that's how I've always seen it.
She's not being fair to you, and I think it's awful when people tell you to wait for them. Why should you? Are you so terrible that you have to wait around for someone to throw you a bone? Of course you're not. Get on with your life and if she comes back, seriously consider whether she won't change her mind again - if it's worth it, you'll know what to do when the time comes.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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