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He is feeling insecure, as dirtyrascal pointed out. He likely didn't even know you were capable of multiple orgasms. Now, all of a sudden, he has discovered that he has been loving you badly for 5 years. That's quite a blow to the self-esteem, not to mention making him feel like he has failed you in this relationship. There's also a possibility that he is worried you might like women better than men! That would terrify me, if my husband had way, way better sex with another man than he did with me.
Anyway. Although it is true that he should be mature about it and learn from the experience, it won't accomplish anything to try to force him to "grow up". You will get better results making him feel like a man again. Reassure him about how happy you are with him, how much you love his cock, how good it feels to kiss and hold him, etc.
Also praise anything else he does well, not just sex. Does he take pride in his great job? Praise his power in the workplace and his ability to provide for his family. Does he love basketball? Tell him how impressed you are with his athletic abilities. Can he dominate the server with his frags-to-deaths ratio? You get the picture.
When he is feeling better, start to try to teach him how to please you better, but don't mention the woman. Don't tell him, "I loved it when she did this, you try it" as he will feel like you are trying to re-create what you had with her, and not enjoying what you have with him. Nobody wants to be compared to another lover. Try to get him to do something you like on his own, through gentle, preferably non-verbal, indication, and then encourage him to continue with obvious excitement. For example, if he should move down a little, shift your pelvis up slightly, then moan with enthusiasm.
If this doesn't work, you have bigger problems to work on...but hopefully that's not the case. Good luck, and godspeed!
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