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Originally Posted by soma
What she means is this: When she buys stuff for other people, she will buy the best of whatever it is she is buying. She just wants the same in return, and I haven't been giving her that.
But it's not only that. She also has to hear her friends go on and on about the stuff their boyfriends buy them, and she can't say much herself.
When I think back, there have been other times where she has called me out on being cheap, which means I really haven't changed. So my question is how I can appear to be not cheap.
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The fact that she cares that she can't say much to "compete" with all the money her girl friends' boyfriends spend on them, speaks volumes about her. At the same time, keep in mind that you were arguing with each other and sometimes in arguments little things get blown out of proportion. Maybe all she felt was a niggling thought like "hmmm I wish I could say the same...but it doesn't matter so much because he's great and he's there for me".
Or it could actually just be as shallow as it appears. Only you know the truth - you already know, don't you? You're only asking us to confirm it, or not.
It sounds like a bit of immaturity on her part, especially if you feel her accusations of being cheap are truly unfair (are you stingy or do you buy her gifts once in a while?), and if you really can't afford to buy "the best" of everything. If she can't understand that, then you're probably not right together.