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Not getting off during sex
So, there is a problem I have always had with sex. Not something to be too ashamed of, but nothing to be proud of either. It's this...
Not being able to get off.
Now as a guy, I know this is somewhat odd. It isn't that I've only been with females who weren't the most pleasant looking. It doesn't matter how good it is or feels, there's just nothing happening in terms of ejaculation. It's not a matter of not going at it long enough either.
The main concern I have with it is this: how the female feels. My current girlfriend is amazing and I love her with all my heart. However, she feels like she's lacking something in the looks or skill department when she's far from it. The first time it happened she cried. She fealt like she was the one with the problem. I fealt horrible. It's just always come down to me having to do it myself to cum.
I've tried visualization, but that really isn't a problem with my current girlfriend. I've tried relaxing. I don't know if it's a comfort issue or what. It's not a feeling of "lacking" in a certain area, either. If anything, the opposite has been true in the past. It's not for lack of time. If anything, exhaustion sets in after a while. The only thing I can remotely narrow it down to is self image. (I weighed 445 about 18 months ago and I'm down to 244 at 6'5"... there's some "left-overs") But I love this girl, she loves me, and has long been accepting of me for both the perfections and flaws.
Any advice?
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