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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
I have to diasgree abaya.....you said it yourself (as I did in my post) it takes TOTAL TRUST to be in a voluntary sub position and I just cant correlate "being afraid" and "total trust". Anticipation is what makes it hot.....not fear
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I'm going to disagree just slightly.
To use my roller coaster analogy again, it's a fear combined with the knowledge of safety that creates the heightened responses. When I ride a big roller coaster, I know that I'm perfectly safe, that I am in fact safer than I was in the car ride going to the park. I'm also scared, especially in that moment of anticipation, which heightens the response that comes from the actual ride itself. You get safety with the illusion of danger, which makes it so that it's possible to enjoy the physical sensation that comes with emotional and physical reactions.
It isn't fear in the same sense as you feel when you're in genuine danger, but I'd still call it a kind of fear.
Obviously that's not the only attraction; theres the feeling of freedom that comes with giving power over to another person the physical sensation of the restraint and the pain inflicted, the immersion into the role being played.
But fear can be a component, especially so if you can connect to the illusion of danger.