I've been thinking lately that I do not feel comfortable discussing *really* kinky things on TFP... and I'm wondering if it's just me. I mean, please correct me if I'm wrong, but anal sex and polyamory seem to be the kinkiest things that any of us discusses around here.
I am not talking about fantasies... I am talking about what people actually DO when they're having sex. It seems that even in a place like this, some topics are "taboo." Are most of us really that vanilla? Not that it's bad if we are, I just don't believe it's true. I figure that we are a pretty non-normative group overall... so why are many of us so hesitant to talk about things that are on the margins of sexuality?
For ktspktsp and I, a lot of it has to do with the fact that we've met quite a few TFP'ers in person. This makes it a bit too much like real-life for us to feel 100% comfortable discussing our level of kinkiness, other than with a few people via PM's. But I also feel like this place is pretty normative (especially hetero-normative, though lesbians are considered "hot"), when it comes down to it... and somewhat judgmental of things that are TOO off the chart. There are, of course, a few notable exceptions among us... and I really appreciate your contributions and honesty. But I remember how strong the reaction was to the old threads about women using strap-ons with their male partners... the closed-mindedness was kind of disappointing, though I guess it's only normal.
But, I thought I'd put this out there and ask if anyone else felt inhibited about discussing these kinds of things. This is the TFP... we're all supposed to feel free to discuss anything and everything, right?
