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i have been in your shoes. I am 36, and have had opportunity to hook up with a sweet thing, and at that same time was very emotionally estranged from my wife. I kept telling myself that i really only have one shot thru life, and that i better get it while the getting was good, because i had a right to be happy. then i watched a guy a work with divorce his wife of ten years because he wasn't happy, and he had taken up with a woman 10 yrs younger than him and thought he had a right to it. he had a 2 month old son and a ten yr old son at the time. He just felt he had to jump ship. It isn't all about happiness. I hung in there with my wife, put away the notions of getting some excitement and affirmation from another woman, and realized that i do only have one shot at getting it right, and looking thru my three kids point of view, that version wasn't running off to someone else. it just comes with too high of a price tag. Until i am completely clear with my wife, with her or divorced, I should involve no other woman. straighten out you life as much as you can, avoid the girl at work because it's making you look like a desperate thirtysomething perv to everyone else but you, and get your head together. get some counseling, it actually helps.
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