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Originally Posted by Seaver
The ladder theory was devised by a man who hates women after being put on the friends list too often, yet has no idea about the inner workings of women (in my opinion).
If this woman is beautiful, intelligent, and wealthy enough to own her own boat she has men throwing themselves at her. Just take your time, do not pressure her in any way and you will stand out among everyone else. Then, when the moment is right, pull her in tight while looking her in the eye, and plant one on her.
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This is something of a threadjack, but the number of times the ladder theory has correctly predicted outcomes in relationships in my experience (both for me and for my friends) dramatically outweighs the number of times it has gotten things wrong. Sure it's drowning it its own cynicism, but it's certainly got something going for it. Humans (perhaps I should say members of Western civilization) hate to be grouped together because it infringes on our desperately important individuality, but when you get down to it, we sure do a lot of things in exactly the same way.
As yosho said, if she really dug him, she'd not be putting up barriers. Barriers mean something and even if the barriers can come down over time, as Abaya indicated hers might have, they're still there, which means you're not "in." Waiting around for someone to warm up to you when they're hurt over someone else sucks and, for my time, isn't something I ever want to do (again). When it comes down to it, you're a cuddle bitch hoping the status quo changes. Sometimes you get lucky and it does. Sometimes you get unlucky and it doesn't. Life's too short to invest that much time and emotional energy in a girl who is that confused.
I think you made the right choice to move on.