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Old 12-19-2006, 07:42 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Hmm....sticky situation. Weird that you'd call her your only real friend and also your best friend after 7 months only.

If you didn't want her there, you should have stuck with that and not said yes when she pressured you. If she wouldn't understand, then she's not such a great friend if she can't respect your wishes on what is an important day for you. It's your day.

If she was a more long-term and very close friend, I would never say yes and then take it back. No matter how close you are, rifts like that are always hard to mend, if they ever really do mend. Once trust is broken, it never comes back in the same way, even if you are able to forgive.

Since I could never consider a friend of only 7 months as important as you seem to consider her, I'd be straight with her and explain that you want something intimate (family only) and she can celebrate with you in a separate occasion/time. Though for me, I can't understand why you're so adamant about only family. If it's just about numbers, one more or less is not a big deal.
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