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zpeanut · 12-17-2006, 11:26 PM

Interestingly.. I had a bit of tiff with my bf about this a couple weeks ago.

This argument actuallly started out by me asking if he'd read an e-book that I'd found on sex tips. The reason for my request was because I was secretly a bit dissapointed after a session of absolutely non-titillating sex, he seems to have forgotten that women like foreplay and slow-sex is preferred. So I decided I'd try to passively make him look into it.

I usually like to read up a little on this sort of stuff to spice up our sexlife. So I didn't feel my request was unreasonable.. its always nice to do something for him and see good results. Sex is an important part of a relationship, so I should put effort into it, like watering a flower.

Well the answer to my question was no. So I erged him to read it and he started getting upset about it because he felt no need for such things! Then the argument started because I couldn't understand why doing something to improve things for both of us could be bad! I mean, its what I do so why doesn't he do it too?! And then it just came out. He told me he wasn't having sex cos he felt like it, he was doing it because I wanted to and he felt pressured to please me, that on average hes horny maybe once a week (shockingly much less than I thought and much less than me)... I felt like shit for a couple days.

I felt like an over-sexed crazed animal on heat.. I was kind of ashamed.

I'm over it now and discussed it with him later. He put it down to pressure and stress about career and such things. Apparently if I give him four years, the sex is going to be amazing and I may not be able to handle the demand! ...who knows.. 3 years and 40 days to go..

These days it seems as though hes read the book and I don't initiate as much as before. I thought maybe starving him a bit would be good, plus walking around naked sometimes or giving him a bit of a massage helps.. hehe. I can go without it if I have to.. I suppose its acceptable for now.

So its established, women are on top in this relationship!

12-17-2006, 11:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
zpeanut Upright Location: Sydney, Australia	Interestingly.. I had a bit of tiff with my bf about this a couple weeks ago. This argument actuallly started out by me asking if he'd read an e-book that I'd found on sex tips. The reason for my request was because I was secretly a bit dissapointed after a session of absolutely non-titillating sex, he seems to have forgotten that women like foreplay and slow-sex is preferred. So I decided I'd try to passively make him look into it. I usually like to read up a little on this sort of stuff to spice up our sexlife. So I didn't feel my request was unreasonable.. its always nice to do something for him and see good results. Sex is an important part of a relationship, so I should put effort into it, like watering a flower. Well the answer to my question was no. So I erged him to read it and he started getting upset about it because he felt no need for such things! Then the argument started because I couldn't understand why doing something to improve things for both of us could be bad! I mean, its what I do so why doesn't he do it too?! And then it just came out. He told me he wasn't having sex cos he felt like it, he was doing it because I wanted to and he felt pressured to please me, that on average hes horny maybe once a week (shockingly much less than I thought and much less than me)... I felt like shit for a couple days. I felt like an over-sexed crazed animal on heat.. I was kind of ashamed. I'm over it now and discussed it with him later. He put it down to pressure and stress about career and such things. Apparently if I give him four years, the sex is going to be amazing and I may not be able to handle the demand! ...who knows.. 3 years and 40 days to go.. These days it seems as though hes read the book and I don't initiate as much as before. I thought maybe starving him a bit would be good, plus walking around naked sometimes or giving him a bit of a massage helps.. hehe. I can go without it if I have to.. I suppose its acceptable for now. So its established, women are on top in this relationship! __________________ 'I have never hated a man enough to give back his diamonds' - Zsa Zsa Gabor Last edited by zpeanut; 12-17-2006 at 11:41 PM..