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Wow! I so feel like your girlfriend. My husband has the same beef with me as you do. Firstly, don't take it personally, because how she feels or more so the fact that she is quite happy going extended periods without sex, does not reflect how she feels about you.
From my own experience, because this was a major factor contributing to why we seperated (we're now back together) it's not that we don't find you attractive. For me personally, it's a whole heap of things. I'm back working fulltime + a part-time job, we have a 3 year old, there's chores, friends and the list goes on. But mostly, it's the RUT. Do you find yourself in a routine? You said it's always missionary? Is it always in the bedroom? Do you always ask or initiate? All of the above create a RUT.
It's so, so easy to fall into this especially being in a long term relationship. Re-live the fun things you use to do or find other things. Getting her to do this may even be hard, but if you get out of your rut, you'll rekindle the butterflies in the stomach. At least this works for me. Unfortunately (and I'm the first to admit it) I REALLY need to be pushed.
If this is the only real issue, persevere ............... let us know!
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ciao bella!
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